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meditation challenge: day 1

By August 5, 2013 2 Comments

On my lunch break, I completed my first meditation in the Deepak Chopra & Oprah Winfrey 21-day Meditation Challenge. I set a personal intention for my own journey towards cultivating miraculous relationships in my life, and then took ten minutes to sit in stillness, focused on a silent chant of “Om” that helped to move my entire body from a state of unease and tiredness, into a state of complete relaxation.

I can’t say I feel instantly happy, of course, but the unease I felt today re-shaped into a more manageable and almost bittersweet feeling of melancholy, because just moments before the meditation ended this thought occurred to me…

† I want to attract people into my life who have experienced a similar path to the one I’ve traveled thus far, and who themselves are also moving into the place I’m feeling drawn towards.

Three Of The Possessed

Three Of The Possessed

It has become clear to me that some of the pain I’ve been experiencing recently is because I have been afraid of letting go of old relationships and friendships that no longer serve me.

This is why the melancholy feels bittersweet. It’s because it’s difficult to let go of the things and people that used to mean so much to me. But with today’s inward look I’m able to see that letting go is the only way I’ll be able to move forward.

As I grow and change, the people that used to fit into my life are not all going to fit anymore. And continuing to attract and spend energy on people and relationships who are remaining in a state or stage where I am moving away from will only continue to cause friction and anxiety for me.

That being said, I don’t want to lose the ability to connect to the emotions I felt as a previous version of myself. I want to be able to recall those feelings with some of the people in my life – a sort of shared nostalgia. This is where the desire to attract people who have traveled a similar path comes in.

I repeated this meditation again tonight and used the time to focus on my personal intention while opening and expanding it inside my heart. I like practicing two times in a day because I find that I’m able to sink deeper into the calmness on the second go round.

The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart.
–Buddha

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  • Corrie says:

    I’ve thought about this so much over the past 11 years since high school graduation. I always wonder how to let someone go if they don’t want to be let go. Also, how to gracefully acknowledge the separation if that is indeed necessary. Not an easy thing to do, in my mind.

    • avantvoice says:

      It’s tough. I’m definitely not an expert, but I’ve been finding lately that when you’re just completely honest about the way *you* feel – without making any comments or references to the other person’s behavior or way of being – then you’re able to handle the situation with grace and compassion.

      There’s no need to make assumptions about why they are the way they are and it doesn’t matter. I had to practice this yesterday and it wasn’t easy, but it also wasn’t that hard. I just focused on my breathing and staying present in the moment, didn’t affect a false mask or tone of voice, and just said exactly what I was feeling in my gut.

      The other person was shocked a bit, I could tell. I assume it’s because they were startled by the raw honesty, but that’s just an assumption. Either way, she heard me and is now perfectly clear on where I stand.