I read this book while on vacation in Costa Rica in December 2011 and it truly began to change my way of thinking. It helped me to recognize a pattern of needing to control situations. It also helped me to see that I overreact in situations where I feel someone is not giving me the respect I feel I deserve.
It’s hard to recognize and accept when you find an embarrassing fault in yourself. I’ve come to realize through recent experiences (and with the eye-opening ideas in this book) that I have built a very large false sense of pride and self to preemptively protect myself from possible hurt by others.
My past wounds carved out of experiences in which I was teased, talked down to and bullied, created a need for me to over exaggerate my self importance while traveling through life. By creating large scenes and involving many people in blown-out-of-proportion dramas, I have been able to save face (with myself only, of course) and protect the wounded part of me that feels it cannot sustain another blow to my self-esteem.
By trying to remember just these four little ideas, I have already learned so much about myself and my motives.
1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.