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The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

By August 18, 2012 No Comments

The Four AgreementsI read this book while on vacation in Costa Rica in December 2011 and it truly began to change my way of thinking. It helped me to recognize a pattern of needing to control situations. It also helped me to see that I overreact in situations where I feel someone is not giving me the respect I feel I deserve.

It’s hard to recognize and accept when you find an embarrassing fault in yourself. I’ve come to realize through recent experiences (and with the eye-opening ideas in this book) that I have built a very large false sense of pride and self to preemptively protect myself from possible hurt by others.

My past wounds carved out of experiences in which I was teased, talked down to and bullied, created a need for me to over exaggerate my self importance while traveling through life. By creating large scenes and involving many people in blown-out-of-proportion dramas, I have been able to save face (with myself only, of course) and protect the wounded part of me that feels it cannot sustain another blow to my self-esteem.

By trying to remember just these four little ideas, I have already learned so much about myself and my motives.

1. Be impeccable with your word.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
4. Always do your best.